Sunday, August 5, 2007

How Long??


We've had the "official referral" for our boys for a little over a month now. We are learning more and more about them (whenever we get updates from agency personnel and/or traveling parents). We've learned what size clothes they wear; what size shoes they wear. We are learning more about what they are learning at the orphanage and what kinds of foods they are eating.

We're fielding all kinds of questions from our friends and family members who want to know all sorts of things about the boys.
-How old are they?
-When are their birthdays?
-Do you know anything about their birth family?
-Do they speak English?
-Do they know about you?

But, for us, the most dreaded question is:
-When are you going to get them?

We are learning to just put it out front that we do not know when we will be able to travel. Its just easier if we don't have to hear the question - to get the answer out there before the question is asked.

We are working with a new program, and that means that we are one of the few families that will be helping to establish the expected timeline for future families. No other families have been through the program, completed an adoption, and brought their child home - at least not yet anyway. We will be one of the first.

You would think that would scare us to death. To be working with a new program. To not have a timeline that we can depend on. To know that there might be kinks along the way and that things will be unpredictable.

But, the truth is we have confidence in this new program. We are confident that this program will become a well-established program and that our agency will do great things in Ghana.

Sure, it would be nice to have a firm timeline and know when the boys might be coming home. But, we went into the program knowing that we wouldn't have an established timeline to follow. And strangely enough, we're ok with that. We know that they boys will come home at the right time. Maybe it will be soon; before we're really totally prepared and we'll have to scramble to get their clothes washed and in their dresser drawers before we travel. Maybe it will be much later and we'll be twiddling our thumbs wasting time before they get here.

For what its worth, we've been told that we could expect anywhere from 4 to 8 months from time of referral to travel. So, the reality is we could be traveling as early as October. Or, next spring sometime. Personally, I'm hoping that the boys are home for Christmas. I'm not counting on it - but it sure would be nice!

3 comments:

Jen said...

Your patience is inspiring. Thanks for sharing. The Ghana journey is a complex one...you're paving the road for others. Take care!

Leslie said...

I know it's hard to have this indefinite pregnancy length--believe me! I'm praying for you guys!

Anonymous said...

My Grandsons are beautiful!!!!!! I too hope to be able to travel to pick up our little bundles of joy. LOVE
MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!