Sunday, October 28, 2007

Optimism

I haven't been updating the blog as regularly lately as I had originally intended. Sorry to all of you who are looking for updates from me! Over the past few weeks I've been feeling a little weary of the wait for good news from Ghana. We've had predictions of a court date....court date cancellations....two judges who were supposed to hear our case go on leave with little or no notice....and then a wait for another family to "test the water" with a new judge. The good news is the other family's case passed easily and we are next! We do not yet know when our court date will be, but we are hopeful that it will be soon. And because things went so well for the other family, we are hopeful that our case will have the same favorable outcome. Since we have had judges that went on leave resulting in court cancellations, I am sure that until we hear that our case was heard and that we passed, I will likely be a bit of a nutcase! ;)

I've been trying lately to distract myself from the lack of news from Ghana by getting absorbed in some good books. This time of year is my very favorite time of year. Its fall, the leaves are turning (or turned and fallen off in some cases), the weather is cooler, the air is crisper, and coffee shops now sell pumpkin flavored coffee drinks (yum!). Another reason I love this time of year is because for some reason I LOVE to watch Halloween specials on TV (ones geared for kids - not the really creepy, scary kind), and I love to read books with fantastical/mystical themes (faeries, vampires, etc). Over the past couple of weeks I discovered The Twilight Series of books and gobbled all three books right up in 5 days. I've slowed down a bit since then, but now I am almost finished with The Spiderwick Chronicles.

This weekend we moved up into the world of people who now drive minivans. Yep, that's right, we bought a minivan (mind you, its a sensible pre-owned flex-fuel minivan)! Now we officially have room in our vehicle for two kids and two dogs (and all of our luggage for when we go visit the grandparents). When Z brought it home, we took it out for a quick drive and let the dogs go for a ride. Ollie was afraid of it to begin with, but they both warmed up pretty quickly.

Z and I both have a pretty busy week ahead of us (actually we have a busy 2-3 week stretch and then we'll soon move into that busy holiday season - yikes!)...but, I will be certain to post when we have news from Ghana!

Thursday, October 25, 2007

Waiting for some cold water....

Prov. 25:25
"Like cold water to a weary soul is good news from a distant land."

Thanks to Margaret for passing on this scripture today...

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Elevator music anyone??

I haven't updated the blog in a while...sorry about that. I guess I feel like I am in the midst of a seemingly endless phone conversation where I've been put on hold and I'm listening to terrible elevator music. Such is life, I guess. At this point, there really isn't much to update you on. We are still waiting to hear when our court date will be. Another family will be heading to court soon (Tuesday) and if all goes well for them, then we should be up next. So, there's hope that we could have our court date within the next two weeks. I will certainly update about this when I can. Though...I may wait until AFTER it happens, that way I don't have to tell everyone again if there is another delay.

There is a volunteer traveling to Ghana at the end of this month and she is planning a trip to Eban House. She very graciously offered to carry over a couple of letters for our boys and hopefully she will get some good pictures while she is there. New pictures are always exciting!

Today in a fit of insanity, I decided to rearrange the living room (again). Mind you, our living room is not the biggest room, and there is a VERY limited number of ways we can arrange the furniture in here. But, I really needed a change of some sort. So, I switched a couple of pieces of furniture with some furniture we had in the basement office so that we could finally have our DVD collection on the same floor as the TV and DVD player. Minor conveniences, you know? However, I decided to do this while Z was out enjoying the outdoors (hunting) so I was going at it alone. And I was too impatient to remove the DVDs from the cabinet before carrying it up the stairs. But, with lots of pushing and pulling and straining I managed to make it up the stairs all on my own. Perhaps next time I decide to rearrange on a whim I will convince Z to help out, too.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Bummin'

It turns out that our court date is not going to be tomorrow after all. Everything was ready and in place, but the judge who was supposed to hear our case went on leave. Africa delays. It doesn't make sense that people wouldn't know when the judge was going on leave ahead of time...and it doesn't make sense that another judge couldn't hear the case on the same day. But such is the way in Africa...and we'll deal with it.

Not to say that we aren't totally bummin' tonight - because we are.

At this point we have no idea when our case will go to court...but hopefully it won't be too much longer.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Court Date

We have a court date!

FRIDAY!

We would appreciate your prayers that court goes well and we are granted a full and final adoption decree for the boys...

Friday, October 5, 2007

Realizations

This week has been a tough week for me, no question. When the week started we had such high hopes of heading to court today (Friday) and leaving court with a final adoption decree. Instead, we got news that we would not be heading to court this week at all. Additionally, there have been new steps implemented in the Ghanaian adoption process (good steps, meant to protect the children), which mean that there will be delays in our case (and all the Ghanaian adoption cases). So, we don't know when court will happen now.

This week I had my first punch-me-in-the-gut realization that our boys may not be here for Christmas. It was so very painful for me to realize this as Christmas has been in my mind as our deadline since we started the process in January. I hate that I have reached this point, but at the same time I needed to. I need to prepare myself emotionally for spending this Christmas without them. If I don't and they are not here, then I will just make myself (and those around me) miserable. I don't want to do that. On the other hand, if I make myself prepared for them not to be here and by some miracle we manage to get our case to court and we get the Ghanaian government and the US government (immigration) all on the same page in time for them to be home for Christmas, then it will be a joyful one indeed!

This week we also realized that we have known about our boys for 6 months now. Our referral has been official for a little more than 3 months, but it has been 6 months since we learned about the boys and first saw their faces. No wonder I am so ready to have them home! They've been living in my heart for half a year already!

I spend most of my time on this blog blabbing away about MY experience with adoption. After all, MY experience is the only one that I am really familiar with. Its the only perspective that I have. However, I've been thinking a lot about our boys' experiences, too. I have no idea how well they will adjust to leaving Ghana and coming home with us. I don't know if they will accept us willingly, or if they will leave kicking and screaming. These two little boys have already been through so much in their lives. When we received the backround information on the boys my heart broke for them. Every orphan has a sad story...they all have lived through things that no kid should have to experience. But this story was my boys' story. Suddenly this background information took on a whole new meaning.

Everytime I think about it I want to hop on a plane and run to them to tell them "Its going to be ok. You have a mommy and a daddy now. And we love you. You have nice soft beds at home to sleep in. There is a lot of food in our pantry and in our fridge; you won't have to go hungry again. You will have lots of toys to play with and books to read; you don't need to take care of yourself anymore - you have us." But, I can't. I have to wait and hope that they are beginning to understand that those pictures we sent to them are pictures of real people who love them and miss them fiercely.

Its true...we miss them. These two little boys that we've never met.

To Get Me Through Another Weekend

We did not go to court this week as we had hoped we would. In fact, there are additional steps being implemented in Ghana that will add a delay in our case getting to court. We don't know how long the delay will be or when our case will finally head to court, but we're hopeful that it won't be too long.

But, its that dreaded Friday again and this week our update came earlier, so I know that it is unlikely we'll hear anything at all today. We did, however get a few pictures earlier this week, one of which is the photo here. It's my adorable Peanut, sleeping peacefully.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

I Found Them!!

So...ever since I've known that I would be traveling to Ghana to pick up our kiddos, I've been on the hunt for a good pair of traveling shoes. I've been reading other adoptive parent blogs, checking their packing lists, and trying to glean as much information as I can from them. So far, every blog that I've read that happens to mention the shoes (you know, the most important detail) they were using to travel with brought crocs.

Ugh....crocs?? Really? I have nothing against crocs, mind you. In theory they are perfect for traveling. You can slip them off and on easily, if they get dirty you just rinse them off and you have clean shoes again, they are relatively comfortable, and you can wear them without socks so when you are traveling in Africa your feet don't get too hot. But, personally, I think crocs are just ugly. Sure, they come in lots of fun colors, but unless you are hanging out at the beach or working at the pediatric ward in the hospital, bright orange shoes just don't seem appropriate (for an adult).

I had a pair of crocs at one point. Navy blue ones...they didn't fit right...and they shrunk when I left them out in the sun. There went the crocs.

But, since EVERYONE seems to be traveling with crocs, I decided to give the line one more look. Maybe they have something new. Maybe they have a pair of shoes that is cute and that isn't made entirely of some weird plastic polymer.

Look what I found! Of course, they are the most expensive shoes they had in their current inventory (just my luck). But, they are cute, they are not made entirely of that plastic "stuff", and they should work great for traveling. I can still rinse them off when they get dirty, they are comfortable, and they slip on and off easily. And, if I really wanted to, I could wear them with socks.




Well...I have my travelin' shoes. Now, when do we leave???