Alright...so I need some advice on how to deal with birthdays around here. On Saturday we have our first "real" birthday to celebrate! Peanut had a birthday two days after they arrived home, but that celebration was pretty low-key as the boys were already overwhelmed with "stuff". Saturday is Jellybean's birthday! YAY!
The problem? The boys don't really have a good concept of what "birthday" means. I've tried explaining it to them, but they don't really get the idea. They've never celebrated birthdays before and they've never really done anything separately before. If one got something, then they both got something.
I want Jellybean to have a great birthday. I want him to have presents and cake and people to sing Happy Birthday to him. I want him to have a fun day where he gets to play games and eat junk food and enjoy turning 6. But....I don't want Peanut to have a bad day. I don't want Peanut to think that somehow Jellybean is MORE special than he is. I don't want Peanut to be upset and cranky, taking some of the joy out of Jellybean's day.
How do I walk this line? How do I explain to Peanut that his day is coming, too...its just going to be a while?
Have any of you figured out a great way to handle the first birthday celebrations with older adopted kids who've never had birthday parties before? If so, please share your solutions!! And FAST - Saturday is coming up!!