Wednesday, July 29, 2009

THAT Place

I'm in THAT place. Emotionally speaking.

The place where I'd rather blog about crafting projects and other random websites than to spend time posting about the reason I have this blog in the first place(adoption-related news). I'm just in a painful place as far as adoption goes.

I am very excited about adding child #3 to our family. Really! I am!

But at the same time, this adoption process feels like its been going on FOREVER. On paper, we only became "referral ready" a couple of weeks ago. We've had so many stops and starts. So many ups...followed by very low downs. The fact that we've already had such a crazy roller-coaster ride and we're *only* to the point of "waiting for a referral" makes the road ahead seem very daunting.

We started thinking/praying/planning for this process over a year ago now (with a particular child in mind). Other families who started the process long after us are bringing children home...while we are just now starting to wait to find out who our child is.

It stinks, in so many eloquent words.

I don't want to be in this place. I don't want to wonder why our path turned out to be so painful and convoluted. I don't want to be the person who feels a tinge of jealousy when I hear about other families getting referrals and other children coming home. I want to be the person who can stand on the sidelines and cheer like crazy for every child who finds his/her forever family...even if I have to wait months and months and months.

But the truth is, this process is HARD. Waiting is HARD. And I'm not a perfectly patient person. I know that this is all adding to my character (as my mom would say). And at the end of the process, all of the pain will wash away. Our child is out there. There IS good news in our future.

But in the meantime, you (my faithful readers) might have to put up with some pretty pointless, boring posts. I'm just not sure I'm up to putting it all out there...not when I'm still working through the "stuff" myself.

Too Expensive

Quite a while ago, I came across a site called "Cool Mom Picks". I happen to enjoy reading some of the posts on the site and have seen lots of interesting gadgets/toys/clothing/etc. on the site. Some things look like they would be genuinely helpful. Occasionally they have some interesting kid music posted. They also showcase some interesting Etsy sellers once in a while.

I love the idea of showcasing creative moms who sell their high-quality wares. I love the idea of buying all organic. I love the idea of buying only the very best (and the very safest) things for our children. And I even understand that if you want to have unique, artsy, indie, "cool" sorts of things that you might have to pull a little more cash out of your pocket-book to get it.

But the thing that drives me crazy about this site is that EVERYTHING is expensive. Who are these moms who can afford to spend $40 on a T-shirt for a 3 year-old??

One of today's posts is a good example of this. They were showcasing a children's furniture designer. One who uses high-quality renewable materials and safe water-based paints. One who creates interesting furniture pieces. And the plug today was for their new line of more AFFORDABLE children's furniture. The pieces in this new line are touted to be about half the price of the original line. Woo Hoo!! HALF the price! That's gotta be good, right? So I clicked on the picture of the crib in the post to find out just how AFFORDABLE half-off is for this designer. Turns out AFFORDABLE according to Cool Mom Picks is $565.00.


That's affordable??

Who are these moms??

Let me give them a little lesson in AFFORDABILITY and eco-friendliness.

I recently purchased a crib for child number three's room (I'm hoping I get to use it...even if I have to use it in the toddler bed configuration instead of the crib configuration...but that's an entirely different post).

I purchased my crib for $50.

From a yard sale.

That's affordable. And its eco-friendly. I am re-using what otherwise may end up in the trash. There's no need to create all kinds of new furniture when we pass along what we've already used. If I want it a different color, I can paint it with my own kid-safe paints.

And if I do that, I will have spent less than $100 for my child's crib. I just need to buy a new mattress and I'm good to go.

I've had these thoughts about this site for as long as I've known about the site. There are great ideas advice on finding safe alternatives to plastic baby bottles...or finding eco-friendly ways to pack your child's school lunch every day. There are interesting Etsy artisans...there's advice about finding resources for recalled items...and lots of other things.

But, in truth, every time I've seen something that I thought "I could use that" and I've clicked on the link, I've noticed that said item is WAY more expensive than is reasonable, given my budget. I think there needs to be a "Cool Mom Picks - Recession Edition" or something.

Usually if I find something I think is a great idea and I have to have it...I do a quick search online to see if I can find the same item (or something similar) much cheaper. I also search for patterns (or recipes) for things that I can just make myself. But to be completely honest, I haven't found anything on the site that I Just. Had. To. Have. But I have made a thing or two that was similar to something they put on their site. And I've learned some things along the way. And...if there's ever a baby around these parts, then I've learned some things from the site that might be helpful.

Ok. Rant over.

Friday, July 24, 2009


Please go to my friend Carolyn's blog and follow the directions to get your name in to win a quilt!! A quilt that I made!!

My mom and I made two quilts for Project HOPEFUL...and the time has come to raffle one of them to raise some funds. Please go check out the quilt and buy some raffle tickets!

Project HOPEFUL is an organization that advocates for the adoption of HIV+ orphans from all over the world. Carolyn works tirelessly to find families for these children, and to help the families who choose to bring these kids into their homes. She is doing her very best to make this process easier for families.

Let's sell some raffle tickets for a GREAT cause!!!


Friday, July 17, 2009


When I'm going through a funk, I've found that the best thing for me to do is to find some sort of "project" to work on. Yesterday I found a project.

We've been looking for a dresser for child #3's room...but wanted to keep it CHEAP. I've been looking at garage sales and Craig's list for a little while. We've seen a few that would work, but always passed them by thinking something else would come along that would work better.

Yesterday I went to a garage sale and found a little dresser that I think will work just fine. And, because it isn't made out of real wood, I felt completely ok about my plans to paint it.

So yesterday I painted.

I still have to play around with the order of the drawers so they fit better in their spots and don't look crooked...but I'll worry about that when I get it in the house and up into the right room.

Thursday, July 16, 2009


I think I'm going through a case of adoption-related hormone problems. I'm tired and moody and cranky and uber-sensitive. And I feel like I'm on the verge of tears All.THE.TIME.

I promise a real post soon.

When I'm over my funk.

Friday, July 3, 2009

It's starting to feel real...

Now that we are officially back on the road to adoption...I feel like I can start making some preparations for who our next little one will be. The most recent decision? This fabric. Cute, no? Lime green and purple. Can't beat that color combo (in my opinion, anyway).